Mama Says…Listen up and pipe down!

Mama Says…Listen up and pipe down!

I need to have a bit of a rant here, one of these niggly things that has been rattling around my head for a while.

I love the NHS, do not doubt me when I say that. It’s a bloody wonderful service and we are super lucky to have it. However, some of the people within it are (I guess as is any percentage of a large workforce) decidedly unrepresentative of their professional body.

Over the course of the last year or so my GP has seen myself and my two boys a number of times due to various things and each time I have found him very dismissive. I’m not the type of person to hurry to the doctor unless it’s something I feel is serious and now I’m a much more confident parent, second time around, I also know that if I’m taking my kids there it’s because I’m genuinely concerned and not just over anxious.

Each time he has left me feeling like some silly girl who’s wasting his time with my concerns – this is so unacceptable! Imagine I allowed his behaviour to put me off going in and my child’s cough or upset stomach turned out to be something far more serious?

My other bug bear is judgy health visitors. Actually I get quite wound up by anyone judging my parenting choices but your HV especially is meant to support you and advise you. Not judge and make you feel shit. The most recent example I have seen was from Megan of It’s The Mother – she had been given a bit of a stern chat from her HV after revealing that she had been cosleeping with her baby girl in order to get some reasonable rest whilst solo parenting for a few weeks. Seriously?! A genuinely sleep deprived parent who isn’t taking any opportunities to get a decent sleep is more of a concern than one who allows their 8 month old to come into bed for a rest. We have H in our bed loads and all the chat I get is “oh you have made a rod for your own back” – come back and tell me that again if he’s still sleeping in my bed at 14 Mavis!! I could go on and on about the whole cosleeping thing because the UK is one of the few countries who really is against it and having read (thoroughly!!) up on it, I am a big advocate if it’s what you wish to do and do it safely.

Enjoying a wee snuggle before bedtime in the big bed!

Anyway, this was a far longer rant than planned but clearly I had some chat to get off my chest! Thanks, as always, for reading along. Please share your moan of the week with me so I know I’m not the only grump out there!!

K x

Mama Says…HoHoHo ๐ŸŽ„

Mama Says…HoHoHo ๐ŸŽ„

When we were invited along to The Bridge Inn Ratho to have breakfast with Santa I jumped at the chance! I love brunch, all things festive and road trips so it was too much for me to resist despite having pretty much no clue where Ratho was! #weegiesontour

Harrison spent no time at all getting stuck in to the amazing pancakes and cooked breakfasts that we ordered which allowed this mama to drink a cuppa and eat my own breakfast for a nice change. The scrambled eggs were particularly awesome and the pancakes are super fluffy.

A very jolly Santa appeared and in a frankly civilised manner his elves herded our wild cats, sorry small children, into a group to sing a few Christmas songs and handed out a lovely gift to them each. After that we grabbed a photo with the big guy himself and took the opportunity to catch up with a few of my favourite East coast mama bloggers who were in attendance with their Small’s too!

As wonderfully festive and blissful as this All sounds (and it was fabulous!) I have to share the reality…..

He HATED Santa ๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ˜‚๐ŸŽ…๐Ÿป

What fun festive activities are you all up to this year?

Kx

Judgy Judy and the Baby Clique

Judgy Judy and the Baby Clique

So recently I had been picking up some vibes from a certain group of women that I know through one of our baby classes. Nothing mean had been said, no outright lines drawn, just a general air of ‘off’ and I couldn’t work out what I had done wrong…


To read the rest of this post, please head over to Bad Mum Magazine where it was originally published ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•

A mamajamma rum hangover…

A mamajamma rum hangover…

I have always been one to get carried away with things. The โ€˜do everything to excessโ€™ trait in me is both a blessing and a curse. The positive aspect is that I go all out on projects that inspire me, and if I love you then Iโ€™m all in and all over your sweet ass self. The down side is that I often end up in predicaments, less so these days with two small kids but there is still plenty of scope. Iโ€™m sure my other half and exes have lost count of the times I have said causally that โ€˜itโ€™s only dinner and a few drinks, wonโ€™t be later than 10โ€™ only to stagger through the door at 3am with one shoe and eye make up halfway down my face.

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As you can see from the clip above, my evening out on Thursday night wasnโ€™t much different to that scenario. I had gone along to a bloggers learning event hosted by Scottish Bloggers Collective in the relatively new but lovely Epoch Glasgow in Princes Square and it all started off very sensibly. 


A welcome Mojito and some excellent chat about bloggers, PRs and brands and how to work together. Sober Katie took lots of notes, asked questions and was properly engaged. We then enjoyed another rum based cocktail and some canapรฉs and broke session to mingle a little bit….here is where it all went a bit awry. Hayleigh and I went to sample some of the Old J Spiced Rum and it was so delicious we sampled one shot, and then another, and then a few more for good measure. Itโ€™s bloody delicious FYI! 

Look how happy our wee rum soaked faces are!!

Needless to say having not eaten a proper dinner, and being quiet well behaved mums (haha) we ended up spectacularly drunk. Everyone was our best pal and everything was massively entertaining to us, special apologies to the young man with the Gallic name in Wetherspoons that begrudgingly served us. 


The next day was not quite as glitzy or as entertaining to me. My head was heavy, my stomach was not happy with me and I had to get my shit together in order to do the school run and then attend Gymboree class with the baby! I managed, by some miracle and all the snacks to do both chunder free, although it was a close call when doing the Hokey Cokey. Thankfully I had my partner in crime Hayleigh and our two tots to cheer me up and share a lunch of all the cheese and carbs.

The hangovers get harder to recover from every year that goes by but this one was definitely worth it! I may even enjoy one of my Old J Spiced Rum samples this evening now I feel human again.

K x

Manic Monday, Tuesday, Everyday!

Manic Monday, Tuesday, Everyday!

Currently life feels a bit like it’s flying past in a total blur and I am just trying to keep up. Thankfully it’s loads of brilliant things that I have on the go so it’s mostly a positive blur but I’m finding it a tad overwhelming.


Actual image of me at the moment!

The result of this is dropped balls, the metaphorical type of course! The actual writing side of the blog has become distinctly neglected. Instagram is just easier, quicker and is where I have a lot more contacts and followers so tends to become the favourite child when life gets manic. So apologies, dear readers, I will get back into the swing of weekly writing!

My main cause of blur and big news is that I have been scrambling around trying to decide what to do about my return to work. I had my request for part time/flexible working denied and was facing a return to work full time from November. A prospect I didn’t much cherish with two small kids one of whom I don’t even have with me 7 days of the week due to custody arrangements. 

Randomly, while in a local jewellers with my Mum, we were discussing my situation and the owner overheard. She quickly spoke up and said she was looking for someone and did I want to give her my CV and have a chat? Fast forward a few weeks, some serious soul searching, a lot of conversations and number crunching and I am leaving the world of insurance. After 7 years and the frankly crushing disappointment of the denial of my request it felt like the right time. Not only do I get to now work amongst the most stunning diamonds all day, they are also letting me run their social media and marketing which is a dream role for me!


Also me…in the display window!

The only down side of all this is that I will be returning to work sooner than originally planned and have a few extra balls to juggle in terms of childcare arrangements and adapting to an altogether new role.

I have a few reviews to write up and post so keep an eye out for those, but please be patient with me while I work out my best balance. 

Any tips on how to keep things all ticking along with out burning out would be much appreciated!

K x

Werk, werk, werk…

Werk, werk, werk…

To work or not to work, that is the question. Well actually the reality is for most of us, that this isn’t a question at all. We simply have to work. In order to keep a roof over our families heads, fish fingers on the table and gin in the cupboard the majority of mums need to work in some capacity.

The time this becomes hardest I feel is after having a baby, whether this is your first or third, going back to work after time at home with your child is rough! The guilt alone is crippling, never mind the cost of childcare! Many will apply to return on a part time or flexible basis to try and gain some semblance of work life balance.

Sadly this is where us mamas get a raw deal a lot of the time. Statistics show that 54,000 women a year are pushed out of the workplace for pushing out a baby! A whopping 77% of the mums who do manage to keep their place in the working world face descriminatory treatment whilst there and earn roughly 15% less than their childless peers. In 2017 this should not even be an issue but it is an all too stark reality.

Thankfully there are some amazing crusaders out there trying to rectify these issues. 

Anna Whitehouse, best know as MotherPukka, has been the Lycra clad driving force for the FlexAppeal campaign. Pushing hard (flash mobbing all over the country with toddler and baby in tow!!) for workplaces to become less focused on the ‘bums on seats’ mentality of old, and more on productivity! 


Pregnant then Screwed is another amazing movement set up by Joeli Brearley to support people facing maternity discrimination and help them find the assistance and advice needed to fight against it. They are running a nationwide series of March of the Mummies on the 31st of October this year to shout out loudly about their Early Day Motion submitted to government by MP Caroline Lucas. I have attached the link to the EDM so you can all read the full details and check if your local MP has signed (if not PLEASE email and ask them to do so!)
There will be a March of the Mummies coming to Glasgow on Halloween and my lovely mama friend Hayleigh and I will be sharing all the exciting details very soon!

K x

EDM: http://www.parliament.uk/edm/2016-17/1084
Stats sourced from: https://www.equalityhumanrights.com/en/pregnancy-and-maternity-workplace/working-forward

Tea Time with T2

Tea Time with T2

The other day I was invited along to visit a bloggers breakfast at T2 on Buchanan Street. The lovely Lauren from the PR team very kindly said it was no issue to bring my little sidekick Harrison along, so there we were at 8am all ready for our first real blogger event!

The breakfast was to celebrate the launch of T2’s newest blend Scots Breakfast Tea and we walked in off the cold, damp streets of Glasgow to the cosy shop smelling of oatmeal and honey. 

For those of you who hadn’t been in the shop before it’s walls are quite literally covered in their signature orange boxes of loose leaf teas and they have gorgeous colourful china on display and available to purchase. 

It was in one of these gorgeous teacup and saucer sets that I was served my perfectly brewed Scots Breakfast Tea, enhanced with a dash of milk and honey. T2 say it has notes of oats, cinnamon and caramel which explains the cosy porridge kind of scent it gives off. 

Not only did we get to enjoy this lovely tea we were well fed too! Big Bear Bakery had made some amazing treats for us using the tea – macarons that were so light they melted in the mouth, buttery wee scones topped with cream and jam and a fruit packed tea loaf! Breakfast doesn’t get much more indulgent than that, Harrison was particularly taken with the scones if you needed further recommendation.

Next up I was given a mini Matcha Brewing demonstration where I sampled the original Matcha green tea as well as their super healthy Turmeric Matcha Latte. Both were delicious and give a long lasting energy boost with no crash like you get with coffee. Perfect for a sleepy mama like me!

T2 spoiled us, even sending me on my way with a lovely goodie bag with my own tea strainer and two of their loose leaf teas (Scots and Melbourne Breakfast) so I could continue my experience at home. I had a great morning and will absolutely be back in for more!

K x